How to Blow a Man's Mind with Deepthroat

What is Deepthroating?

Deepthroating is when someone gives a person fellatio (a blowjob) but much deeper, taking the phallus so deep that it penetrates the oesophagus. Gag reflexes can triggered when anything that could be a choking hazard reaches the uvula (the tear drop shaped flesh at the back of the mouth). So why try do do something that can literally make you vomit?

There are two key incentives for trying this unique sexual experience. The first is psychological. It take practice to learn how to do it thus it’s a prime way of demonstrating sexual prowess. There’s also a lot of power play involved, the giver (person giving oral sex by taking the phallus into their mouth) can either take a submissive role allowing themselves to be penetrated in such a lewd fashion. At the same time the receiver offers the giver a great deal of power too as when the receiver (the person who is being pleasured by the giver's mouth) reach such dizzying heights they are helpless and at the mercy of the giver.

The other incentive is far more simple. It feels good. The giver can feel empowered giving their partner such a deep and unique form of pleasure. Giving deep-throat is guaranteed to impress the receiver and it is very pleasurable. If you like giving fellatio you’ll love doing deep-throat. The sensation for the receiver is very unique with the tight soft sensation of good anal sex whilst simultaneously simulating the pleasant wet massaging sensation of good vaginal sex.

It is important to note that there is a difference between deepthroat and just taking it all in your mouth. The average person’s mouth is about six inches deep with the uvula being located at the very back of the mouth. Deepthroating takes it even further past the uvula and literally penetrates the oesophagus much like how a sword swallower at a carnival show can dip a long metal blade down their neck without gagging.

What are the risks?

As with any sexual activity there are risks. The number one risks to the receiver are sharp teeth and sexually transmitted disease (which can be prevented with condoms). If the receiver gets carried away with someone who is inexperienced then there is also the risk that it may cause them to vomit.

Most of the risks are taken by the giver. It takes a great deal of trust as the receiver can cause damage to the tissues in the throat of the giver or they may choke if the receiver gets too excited and gets carried away with someone who is still learning.

If the giver is rather well endowed and quite thick they need to be even more careful. If they just shove it down someone's throat then it will be very unpleasant and could even cause a minor injury or other complications. There is a slight risk that if the receiver is too rough they may over stretch the throat of the giver and cause a sore throat or even minor tissue damage such a swelling or slight tearing. However, if you treat deep throat with the same respect you should anal penetration then everything will be absolutely fine.

What are the benefits

For the giver the benefits are mostly psychological, if you get off on giving blowjobs or pleasing your partner then deepthroating is definitely worth trying for a while. If you’re not a natural then you’ll have to practice, a journey which is almost as frilling as the destination and also there’s the joy of working towards and achieving common a goal.

If you enjoy having the power to make your partner weak in the knees perhaps even begg for it then it’s worth a try. Deepthroating can also be a form great form of submission, allowing your partner to violate a part of your body not meant for penetration for their pleasure is a great form of submission which some may find degrading in a very arousing way.

If being a little dirty or slutty makes you feel good or you find it empowering to take someone in your mouth and give them the ride of their life then its also worth trying. It takes a great deal of skill and talent to deep throat and please someone which makes it all the more frilling and exciting for those that feel empowered or free being promiscuous or uninhibited in the bedroom. It is a skill and most people will find it very impressive.

The benefits for the receiver are not that much different than fellatio only the sensations can be much more stronger and the fact that it requires a more talented partner makes it all the more exciting. Once the receiver is more experienced the giver will be able to “Fuck their throat”. Which has all the pleasant sensations of anal or vaginal sex but with far fewer risks and if they swallow no mess.

Another mutually beneficial prospect is that it is very gratifying when the giver swallows which also leaves no mess however not everyone likes the taste of seamen. If a person ejaculates inside the oesophagus then they essentially bypass the giver’s mouth and all their taste buds. The receiver gets the gratification of having their partner swallow their load and the giver doesn’t have to taste it if they don’t want to. They can pull back and let the receiver cum in their mouth if they do like the taste.

How to practice

Alway work your way to the back of your mouth slowly and stop if it feels uncomfortable. Deepthroat training is like stretching muscles or contortion, when you reach your limit stop and hold it there for a few seconds and try to go a little further next time. Focus on staying calm and relaxed, try to get used to it. In time you will desensitise your gag reflexes.

You will not be able to breath (at least not to begin with) while you have a shaft down your neck. While giving fellatio practice breathing in when pulling back and breathing out as the shaft goes into your mouth until it becomes second nature. This will help you to breathe naturally and relax more when you are ready to go deeper.

There is more bacteria in the mouth than on the typical person’s genitals or even the average toilet seat! Some bacteria can cause gum infections and bad breath. As part of your oral hygiene regimen when brushing your teeth you should also brush your tongue as well. This will help keep it clean and remove any excess bacteria that has built up on the tongue.

It is also an ideal and discrete opportunity to practice training your gag reflexes. When brushing your tongue try to see how far back you can get your toothbrush without gagging and practice trying to relax. Deep throat is just like anal, staying relaxed is key.

Try sucking on phallic shaped ice pop/ lollies. Such as the Twizzler or Fruit Pastel ice lollies sold in the UK. You could practice with any phallic shape food such as a banana but ice lollies are the safest as they will melt in the body before they become a serious choking hazard.

The closest thing to the real thing is a rubber or silicone dildo. You may need to start small and work your way up to longer thicker dildos and it is best to lubricate them. It is easier to fantasise with a dildo which can be ideal while masturbating or as foreplay. It's good to have fun and enjoy yourself while practising!

Top Tips

If you’re unintentionally gagging or vomiting then you’re pushing yourself too far, keep trying but remember to take it easy.

If your throat feels sore or raw then it’s time to stop and try another day.

Don’t go strait for the back of your neck. Slowly build up taking a little more with each stroke if you can. Take your time, relax and take it to the next level when you feel confident.

As with blowjobs it’s OK to use your hands, hold the shaft, use your hand as a stopper to control how deep they go even if they get carried away in the heat of the moment.

With anal sex especially when you’re starting out you should always use as much lube as possible. The same applies to deepthroat, there is a reason why there’s such a thing as flavoured lube. Though not as important as with anal, you should definitely try lube when you’re starting out.

Again just like anal if you’re new to it and aren’t entirely sure what you’re doing or if that’s what you’re both into it can get quite messy. Vaginas can produce discharge, the anus can excrete faecal matter and the mouth can eject vomit. These are all normal bodily functions. It's not very likely if you're careful but accidents can happen even if you’re well versed and fully prepared. Be grown up about any mishaps that may happen.

Stay hydrated and use your saliva to keep things sloppy. Sloppy and messy is always better. It will feel more pleasurable for the receiver and more pleasant and easier for the giver.

Stop and catch your breath if you need to, you can keep them going with your hand.

Try humming or swallowing as they pass your uluva, this will raise the pallet out of the way a little making more room for the head to pop in and also reducing the chances of triggering your gag reflexes.

The length of the mouth is at a right angle to the oesophagus, by raising the chin as far as possible they both become aligned allowing the shaft to pass down it.

Positioning is Key

There are three ideal positions for deepthroat oral sex. Each one has it’s own advantages and dis-advantages. It’s worth trying all of them to see which one works best for you. Whichever position is best for the giver should always be the preferred method as they are doing all the work and need to be as comfortable as possible.

Sixty Nine position: The sixty nine position is a good choice especially for the more experienced participants as it allows mutual gratification. The giver should ideally go on top of the receiver as going on top gives them more control over how deep their partner can go and they can pull away when they need to. The best part about the sixty nine position is that when the giver raises their chin it will naturally align with the receivers shaft making it much easier to penetrate the mouth and throat.

If the giver is underneath the receiver then they need to have a great deal of restraint when penetrating the throat of an inexperienced giver. It is not recommended for the inexperienced.

Receiver Laying on their Back: This can be a very comfortable position for both parties. The giver has much more control in this position which can make it feel more empowering and they can also pull away at any time much more easily. They can even take a more dominant role by restraining the receiver.

On Your Knees: With the giver on their knees and the receiver either stood up or sat down is a very common position. It can make for very good alignment of the mouth, throat and shaft if the giver uses their hands to guide it.

Conclusion

Deepthroating can be a very pleasurable and empowering experience which is definitely worth trying and practising if both parties are interested. If you’re a natural and you fit like a glove first time with no hiccups that’s wonderful but for most people don’t expect to become a pro overnight. Most people will need to practice for weeks before they get any good at it. Treat deep-throat the same as anal sex. Start slow and gentle, with lots of trust and communication and keep practising until it’s effortless and it will be very enjoyable.

I can’t believe 2021 is almost over

 

 I have lots of exciting plans for 2022

The last two years have been very tough for everyone, myself included. However I am one of those people that thrives in stress. Too much stress will break anyone but 2021 has been just right for me. I’ve been faced with many challenges that seemed impossible but I delivered the goods and it makes me feel like I've become a better person for it.

My day job will always be busy but over the past two years I’ve learned how to make better use of what little time I have and also that it’s OK to say no when people ask you to do too much. This is good as I’ve been able to free up a spare hour here and there to plan some exciting things that I’m really looking forward to sharing with you all when they’re ready.

In the mean time I intend to blog more often perhaps once week, even if it’s just one or two paragraphs. Blogging is a convenient way to share ideas and keep you updated and I encourage you to share your thoughts either privately or in the comments. All feedback, positive or negative is good feedback which will help me to improve my work.

Also I’ve already written up my goals for 2022. They are to get my side project up and running, to write at least one quick read every two weeks and finish writing Absolution so I can get started on my next erotic novella. If I can stick to this plan then I should be able to produce content every week.Absolution does have some dark themes to it but I'm ready start holding back less and share some more taboo stories now.

Keep checking in to my website LionelErotica as the more traffic I get the more I feel obliged to produce more content.

Enjoy

Lionel

How to blow a man’s mind with a hand job

 

About this article

This article is exclusively about handjobs, however don’t forget that a handjob can be used in conjunction with other activities such as alternating between a handjob and fellatio or while stimulating other parts of the body at the same time.

It’s not just women that are unique, all men are different individuals too. Whilst it’s different strokes for different folks there are some basic techniques you can try to see which one(s) works best on your partner. I am a man who prefers women but of course whilst men tend to have larger hands it’s exactly the same if you’re a male or anyone else giving a hand job. I know how to please a man because I am a man.

A hand job can be a very empowering experience for the giving party, the receiving party is subject to your every whim while you have them in your hands. If you tease them enough you can make them say or do anything you want. It can also be an act of submission, you’re giving them a favour, pleasuring them. It all depends on the vibe you create with each other.

Getting to grips

The penis is extremely sensitive to touch but don’t worry, it’s not made of fragile glass. A man can be quite vigorous and get rather rough during sex without any ill effect on his body what so ever. The goal is to simulate an aroused vagina or relaxed anus with your hands.

If you have a penis just grip your partners as tightly as you would like yours to be held. If you’ve never experienced male masturbation then it is best to think of the head of the penis as a giant clitoris and the shaft like an inverted vagina, it should be gripped no tighter than a vagina should be stretched and it should be rubbed no harder than a clitoris should be rubbed without forgetting that these are the sensations that can make sex feel so good.

A little extra help

Don’t be afraid to use saliva as lubricant or better still lubricant! Water based lubricants work best for handjobs but remember that depending on where it is stored the bottle will most likely be at room temperature and will feel cold. If you really want to go all out you can place the bottle in warm water to provide a warm pleasant sensation when applying it.

Lubricant, saliva or even lots of pre-cum make for a much more pleasant sensation as it allows the hand to move over the penis and stimulate it rather than rub the skin which is densely packed with sensitive nerve endings. If your grip is too tight, your hands are very dry or you rub too hard you may cause too much friction which will feel unpleasant after a while.

It is best to use water based lubricants made for vaginal or oral sex rather than a more viscous lubricant better suited to anal sex but anal lube will work fine as well. If you use a water based lubricant it may start to dry out and get a little tacky as it gets spread thin and starts to dry out. Spitting on your hand or his joystick will re-activate the lubricant without breaking the flow by having to stop and apply more lube which might also be cold.

An erection is dependant on the flow of warm blood to the penis. This means that temperature can be used to tease and stimulate the penis. The femoral arteries are located in the upper inner thigh on each leg and provide warm blood to the legs. This provides a rather convenient source of warmth right next to the male genitals. If you have cold hands it may be worth considering warming them up by rubbing the inner thighs as foreplay.

Top techniques

The most common way to give someone a handjob is to wrap the hand around the penis and rub it all the way up and down like polishing a pipe. Going faster will make the sensation more intense and will speed up the process, going slower allows them to catch their breath and recover, teasing them so you can bring them to the edge again.

You can even add a twist at the end by rotating the wrist like revving a motorbike or twisting a door knob while the hand is at the top of the penis. This will stimulate the much more sensitive head of the penis and you can alternate between rubbing the shaft and twizzling around the knob end.

The most effective way to pleasure a man with your hands is to focus where the penis is most sensitive. The glans (knob end) there are as many nerve endings in the head of the penis as there are in the clitoris only they are more spread out due to the larger size of the glans compared to the clitoris. By focusing on the glans, only rubbing the shaft up and down in order to deliberately prolong the pleasure you can create a more pleasurable experience.

You can also change the angle by ninety degrees, imagine you are pouring a drink from a bottle. Then instead of pouring a drink imagine you are polishing an apple, twisting at the arm rotating the radius and ulna rather than bending at the wrist. Applying a rotating motion to the penis like stroking a hamster can also produce an intense and pleasurable sensation.

By rippling the fingers over the bell end or gently massaging it like polishing a bed knob you focus all the stimulation on the most sensitive part of the penis.

There countless ways to pleasure a man with your hands but they all boil down to intensity or tempo and stimulation. Gently grasping or massaging the testicles during a handjob may also help to enhance the sensation.

Using a little elbow grease

There are two approaches to making someone climax from a handjob, slow and steady or intense and you can also start slow and build up in intensity. You could even start intense and get slower and slower, getting him excited and then teasing him as you get slower and slower. If you are not confident at giving hand jobs it is best to start slow and steady and work up to intense during the session, paying attention to their body so you can see how they react and fine tune things.

Have fun with it and play with his joystick! Communication is key but it is very important to know that it doesn’t necessarily have to be verbal. Words of encouragement or even sighs of relief are extremely helpful for the person giving the handjob but that they must also remember that their partner might not be able to speak.

If there are restrictions for example the handjob is being carried out discretely in a public place or where you do not want to be heard then you will need to look for physical cues or just go for it and see what happens. Also if you’re doing a really good job then they may not be able to speak because you take their breath away!

If you are going for a slow, steady sensual approach it will take longer but it is much easier to give your partner a stronger orgasm as the climax has much more time to build up. If you go for more intense stimulation you will induce a powerful orgasm but it may be more challenging for a beginner as you may experience fatigue during the process.

What to look for

Verbal and physical signs aren’t that much different than those you would look for when pleasuring an individual with female sex organs. If you see physical signs then you are pleasuring your partner and you can either keep it up or keep experimenting and see if you can find a pace or a technique that produces an even better reaction.

You can observe extraordinary breathing by looking at the chest or listening to your partners breathing to see if it is deeper or shallower and quicker than usual. Are they gasping? Are their pupils dilated, do they have a sensual or sultry look on their face? The best sign is a squirming or grinding of the hips as although it can be faked it is usually an involuntary response to stimulation which will sooner or later end with an orgasm.

An extra hand

If you use two hands at once you are doubling the surface area that touches the penis which means double the sensation. You can use the same techniques as above only with both hands to increase the surface area that stimulates the penis or you can keep the bottom hand in place while the top hand massages the far more sensitive glans end of the penis almost as if you’re trying to very gently stretch it out.

You can also apply a twisting action like wringing out a wet cloth but with a more gentle grip that will create another sensation. Just remember you’re pleasuring him not giving him a Chinese burn! I can’t think of a good analogy off the top of my head but picture this:

Imagine you have an ice cream that has some sprinkles on it that you don’t like so you wrap your fingers around it and pull them off with a twisting motion like you’re polishing a pipe or unscrewing a bottle. You want to grip the ice cream enough for you hand to brush sprinkles off but not so hard that the rest of the ice cream is ruined.

Play with your food

The more you tease and the longer you make it last, the more intense and pleasurable it will be when they finally do cum. However, a key point to note is that if you go at it too hard you may cause them to become tense down below. Pace yourself. If you go all out and then keep stopping due to fatigue you will have to start building their climax up again from scratch as you become more and more fatigued. However if you can go hard and fast consistently it will make them cum quite hard.

For the most pleasurable experience you need to tease the most. Start slow and gradually rub harder and faster until you feel that they are close to cumming. If they are close to cumming slow right down almost grinding to a halt and start over again. Repeat as many times as you like until they cum or when you are ready you can finish them off by rubbing vigorously and consistently.

Ejaculation can differ from person to person. Some people oooze cum, some people squirt it out like a fountain. The volume will differ from person to person and will depend on various other factors. There are various methods of increasing the volume and flow or even denying your partner the pleasure of cumming or having an orgasm however they are subjects for other writings.

I hope you enjoyed reading this and found it useful. Remember to have fun with it, treat it like a game, consider it a form of massage and never treat it like a chore (unless you both want to) and don’t be afraid to experiment and try a different grip or method.

Feel free to get in touch if you want to know more tips and tricks, swap notes or chat.

A Quick Introduction to Anal Sex

 

1. Make sure that you and any partner(s) really want to try anal and are ready for it.

So you really want to try anal sex? Good for you, anal sex is a perfectly normal human desire, a great deal of adults have tried it far, more than you might think. I have no doubt that even more people have thought about it but won’t admit it. You shouldn’t feel any shame at all in wanting to try it too.

However in the same way that some people don’t like oral sex and some people think it’s the best thing ever you should never assume that anal sex is always an option, some people just won’t be into it.

Do not allow a partner to bully you into trying anal sex and never put pressure on your partner to try anal sex. Any kind of sex without consent is wrong and will have dire perhaps unforeseen consequences for all parties. In some parts of the world it is forbidden. Do not break the law unless everyone involved is willing to suffer the consequences if you get caught.

If you want to try anal sex as an alternative to vaginal sex for cultural or religious reasons then do your research. Search your heart and decide if you truly find it acceptable for you and your partner. You only get one first time, make sure it’s a special enjoyable experience for everyone involved you might miss out on a world of joy if you only get to try it once because your first time was a bad experience for you or someone else.

2. Don’t expect to go from anal virgin to ass master over night.

Having anal sex for the first time is not the same as being a porn star or anyone who has anal sex for a living. The anus and rectum are a series of ring shape muscles, anyone can fit something huge up there with no lubricant but it takes time to train the body first. It is no different than a new contortionist learning to do the splits if you try and do it without training first you will get injured.

If you’ve never ever had anything stimulate the inside of your anus before then it’s vital that you start slow if you try it. You will need lubricant to find anal penetration comfortable and enjoyable at least to begin with until your body gets used to it. If your partner is well endowed or you want to be penetrated with something quite large it will take time (weeks months or even years) for you to learn how to relax and stretch your sphincter muscles that much.

Pain is there for a reason, even if you find pain pleasurable it is important to remember that anal muscles are very similar to vaginal muscles. The key difference is that the anus does not produce a natural lubricant when aroused. It is possible to enjoy anal sex with or without pain. If you choose to make it painful then you still need to start gentle and even more care should be made to ensure that the sensitive tissues are not damaged.

Be patient, you might not be able to fulfill your fantasy right away first time. If you had any problems don’t feel disheartened, keep trying as many times as you want to, learn from your mistakes and take time to enjoy it.

3. Preparation is Vital

To begin with anal sex shouldn’t just be a quickie, take time to prepare yourself mentally and physically. Do you have a partner that might get carried away and needs some boundaries to be set? Find somewhere comfortable that will grant you a degree of privacy for some time.

The rectum passes fecal matter through the anus during dedication. You will need to empty your bowels and clean your anus before any kind of anal penetration. No matter how well you prepare there is still a small chance that things could get a little messy. Make sure that your personal hygiene is at a good standard and that you have the means to clean up afterwards.

The anus can harbor a number of diseases which can be spread easily if a high degree of personal hygiene is not maintained. You will need lubricant to prevent discomfort or possibly even tissue damage if you are a beginner trying to enjoy anal penetration for the first few times. A little spit or cum won’t do if you want the first time penetrating the anus to be comfortable.

If you have never been penetrated anally before and wish to try it, consider stimulating the anus externally first, gently massaging it then perhaps slowly working a finger inside. Oral stimulation is one of the best ways to learn how to relax. If you want your anus to be stimulated orally make sure to wash it first.

Always start small and work your way up, want to try being penetrated by a man? Consider starting with lots of lubricant and a finger or a small soft object that is safe to use like a beginners butt plug or an anal probe first.

4. Foreplay and mood are just as important if not even more important than almost any other kind of sex.

No matter how good you and your partner are in the bedroom if you are not in the right state of mind then it won’t be enjoyable. The anus is close enough to the genitals that any foreplay that arouses the participant’s genitals will also help to relax the anus and get the receiver in the right state of mind.

Whilst the rectum does produce it’s own lubricating mucus, the anus does not and the rectum may tear if it is not relaxed during penetration. Any kind of anal stimulation including oral stimulation (rimming) will not be enjoyable if the receiver is not fully aroused. Anal sex is much like vaginal sex, if you go in dry without any foreplay it might become pleasurable once you relax and get into it but it won’t be pleasurable at all to begin with.

If you’re not in the mood, don’t feel prepared or don’t have the time or the privacy to take it slow it is better to be patient and try another time when conditions are more appropriate for getting intimate. Anal sex is not ideal for quick heat of the moment sessions to begin with but can get very passionate, intimate and pleasurable once you are more experienced.

5. Communication is key, start slow.

Listen you your body and your partner(s) body. Communication is key, if you feel any resistance slow down and be more gentle. If you feel ready for more tell your partner or give yourself more but make sure you take your time to begin with.

Once you get into it you can stop holding back and start to enjoy it. If you feel any unwanted pain or discomfort slow down or tell your partner to be more gentle or stop. If the experience is too intense or you want to stop then stop and try again later if you want to.

If you feel any pain or discomfort afterwards always listen to your body and take time to recover before trying again. The more you listen to your body, the sooner you will learn how to control it and the more enjoyable it will be. If you do feel any pain or discomfort the more you allow yourself to recover the sooner you will find it more pleasurable. Anal sex should get better and better the more experienced you become. The more you listen to your body and/ or partner the more enjoyable it will become.

Conclusion

Anal sex is one of the most pleasurable and intimate things a person can do. Millions of people enjoy anal sex enough to keep trying it again and again. You may need a little experience before you get the most out of it and don’t be afraid to stop, take a break and try another time if you’re not feeling into it.

For me anal sex is one the most intimate things that can be done and I have no doubt that many other people feel the same. It is impossible for a couple (without any medical conditions) to conceive through anal sex. Whilst that means that there is no risk of pregnancy which is a life long commitment you are still trusting each other or yourself with the most vulnerable and private part of the body so weather you are a beginner or a pro, trust, patience, preparation and communication are key.

Further reading

If you’re still not sure or are really intrigued and would like to know more about how and why people have anal sex then find out more. I have written a book all about anal sex based on ten years of careful research which dispels some of the myths surrounding anal sex, discusses anal sex from a cultural, historical and ethical stand point as well as a how to guide with detailed step by step guides for all things anal.

You don’t have to take my word for it, don’t be afraid to do your own research but be aware that there is a lot of myths and speculation about anal sex. Try to be conscious of what sources you use for your information, even doctors have been known to speculate rather than publish proven facts. The best sources are people who have tried anal sex themselves. It won’t make you incontinent and it shouldn’t hurt (unless you want it to). There is no shame in being curious.