Sex should always be
about mutual gratification. When it comes to sex, these days sadly a
lot of men think it is over the moment they cum, regardless of
weather their partner is satisfied or not. More over a lot of men are
judged on their performance by women who put little to no effort in
themselves.
Women who put more
effort in tend to be less concerned with how well endowed an man is.
Women often fake orgasms which can fool men into being complacent and
that they don’t need to improve. There are now more and more cases
of men complaining that their partners can’t make them cum and that
they no longer enjoy sex.
The pressure tends
to be put on the man to perform, but what if you’re a woman who
gets off on pleasuring a man?
This article is for
women on how to please your man written by a man. In this case we
will focus on how to satisfy a man when you’re on top during
vaginal sex although the same rules apply to anal sex when you’re
on top. I may write more articles on how to please men with other
positions/ activities if this one proves successful.
I always say that a
gentleman always comes second but what do you get out of making sure
he cums first from time to time?
Having the ability
to give a man deep pleasure can make a woman feel empowered. If your
man works hard to keep you satisfied and sex is all about you then
it’s nice to give him a reward every now and then, he will also
feel more appreciated and will be more likely to reciprocate.
One of the biggest
reasons to make an effort to pleasure a man is the sense of power
that can be gained from it. I often speak to women who really enjoy
giving fellatio. I always used to wonder why as it doesn't look very
pleasant for the giver. During fellatio the giver puts all the effort
in and may not receive any physical stimulation at all.
As it happens women
that do enjoy giving oral sex tend to enjoy it for exactly the same
reasons that men such as myself really enjoy giving cunnilingus. Some
people like the taste, I also love the smell of a clean juicy pussy.
But most important of all is the sense of power you gain when your
partner looses control of their body.
When your partner
starts to moan and squirm uncontrollably you are the one in control
even if your partner grabs hold of your head and holds you down
between their legs you’re the one blowing their mind and you decide
weather to stop, prolong, carry on or intensify their experience at
any time.
Whilst oral sex is
the best example the same applies to vaginal sex. The easiest way for
a woman to blow a man’s mind is for her to ride him in the cowgirl
position facing towards him. This method gives the woman more control
which means that she can carry on pleasuring him even when he looses
control of his body.
The best part about
blowing a man’s mind with your pussy when you’re on top is that
the more pleasurable it is for you the more pleasurable it will be
for him. As you’re on top if you don’t cum at the same time you
can still get more out of him even after he cums by following through
and continuing to ride him.
Down to business
The most common
mistake that men make when the woman is on top is that they don’t
do any of the work, much like some women assume when the man is on
top. If you just lay there doing nothing then you and you’re
partner won’ get as much out of it as you will if you both put the
effort in.
Whilst it gets more
difficult as the climax builds up and fatigue sets in, if a man
thrusts with his pelvis while his partner is on top both parties will
find it much more pleasurable. When it comes to being on top you will
probably find that the most common misconception is that it should be
an up and down bouncing movement.
For both parties the
most pleasurable way to ride a man is actually to move back and
fourth not up and down, rolling/ rocking the hips along the shaft
which points horizontally when laying down. This will also cause the
clitoris to rub firmly against the man’s body.
If the rider moves
up and down or leans back they will bend the penis downwards which
will cut off circulation slightly and delay the contractions required
for the male orgasm also clitoris will receive no stimulation unless
it’s done by hand .
The experience can
be enhanced further with a method known as the Bangkok kiss. This is
a process used by women who’s profession is pleasure men and have
made it into an art form. With each backward stroke the woman
tightens her pelvic floor muscles making her vagina or anus feel
tighter and then relaxes on the forward stroke prolonging the time
she can remain clenched before fatigue sets and allowing more blood
flow to the penis.
Practice makes
perfect
The best way to
improve your riding technique is to watch how he responds to your
movements. If you make any adjustments to your pace, movements or
position try to keep them going for at least five seconds. Listen to
his voice and his breathing and look at his face to see how he reacts
to the change so you can see if he likes it. Does he wrap his hands
around your hips? Does he squeeze your buttocks? Does his grip
tighten?
Also encourage him
to tell you what works for him but don’t be surprised if he can’t
speak when you’re taking his breath away. Never fake an orgasm, if
you do your partner will assume that they know how to make you have
an orgasm, they won’t learn anything and neither of you will get
anything out of it.
It’s also
important to remember that even when you’re on top the man can
still put effort in that will make things much better for you. While
a man still has control over his body he can thrust his hips up
towards your belly button allowing for deeper penetration at a more
pleasurable angle. Male hip thrusts will also cause a man’s pubis
(the part of the pelvis above the genitals) to rub harder against the
clitoris.
If you are a woman
the best way to practice on your own is to masturbate by riding a
pillow. The more your clitoris rubs against the pillow the more
pleasurable you will find it. If you apply the same technique while
your partner is inside you you will find that the better it feels for
you the more he will enjoy it too because as humans we have evolved
in a way that we should both cum at the same time.
There are many ways
to practice the Bangkok kiss and even if you don’t use this
technique kegal (pelvic floor) exercises will definitely improve your
talents in the bedroom, improve bladder control and help your anus to
relax and contract when you want it to. These exercises also help to
tone the anus and will improve anal sex.
Kegal exercises are
also recommended for those who enjoy anal sex and for men who wish to
last longer in bed as it improves a man’s ability to hold back.
Kegal exercises tone the walls of the vagina making them more elastic
making it feel tighter whilst also able to relax more to accommodate
larger entities.
Wearing high heals
causes the toes to point downwards while walking which engages the
muscles on the back of the leg more all the way up to the buttocks
and between the legs. It is a very mild method and is the least
effective method but it can make a difference over time.
Kegal toning
exercises. This is the most discrete method, it can be done anywhere
without anyone noticing and is the method used by professionals to
train their bodies for the perfect Bangkok kiss. For improving the
ability to hold back or tone the vagina lightly tense your genitals
inward then clench harder as if trying to pull them upwards then
relax. As with any exercise the more reps you do the more toned you
will become but the more fatigued you will be so don’t exercise
right before sex.
There are also tools
to help the pelvic floor muscles to become even stronger. Men can
hang weights from the base of the penis when doing kegal exercises or
the tip of the penis when erect and try to lift them. Women can
insert special weights designed to go into the vagina and clench
around them. There are two types of weight, Ben Wa balls which are
spherical in shape or Yoni Eggs which are egg shape.
Both Ben Wa balls
and Yoni eggs can be used anally or vaginally and should always be
used with a draw cord attached for safe removal afterwards even if
tense or fatigued. Additional weight can also be attached to the draw
cord for greater strength. Kegal exercises with Ben Wa balls or Yoni
eggs is very discrete but also can be quite pleasurable and is
recommended for women who need to strengthen pelvic floor muscles
after child birth or wish to tighten their holes or become more
elastic.
Conclusion
It’s important to
remember that sex should always be mutually beneficial, if you and
your partner can’t quite reach mutual satisfaction just yet then
you should take it in turns to focus on each other, learn about each
other’s bodies and get used to them. Every one is different and it
it takes time and humility to learn everything about your partner’s
body and what works best for them.
Thanks for reading
Lionel
